I hope October is off to a great start for you! I know Fall can be a busy season full of end-of-quarter report cards and parent/teacher conferences, sporting events, football games and trips to the local pumpkin patch. Making all these memories is so much fun but can quickly fill up our calendar.
For the last couple of days I've been struggling with a negative mindset and basically, just a really bad mood! You can ask my friends and family, but for the most part I am a very positive, happy person who likes to see the good in everything.
I've become pretty good over the years at letting the little things slide and focusing on the big picture. So this bad mood of mine really bothered me and I knew I needed to get down to the bottom of it and FAST!
First of all, I had to figure out where this bad mood was coming from. I had an amazing day on Saturday running in a 76.2 mile relay run from Omaha, NE to Lincoln, NE with my team of 8 women. I look forward to this day every year and it was absolutely perfect weather for it. I couldn't have been more happy and excited!
As always for this race, a 4:30 a.m. wake-up call was required and we all met up and drove to Omaha to the starting line. The energy is overflowing and the playful banter was in full force. When you cram 8 women into a mini van for an entire day, things can get pretty fun! (A little smelly by the end of 12 hours, but we're used to smelly situations from our kids, right?)
I won't go into all the super fun details of the day (but I could if you wanted me too!! Just reply to this email ;), but by the time I got home it was about 10:30 at night and I was exhausted. As much as I wanted to sleep in late on Sunday morning, I couldn't. I needed to be at church and teach Sunday school. So I pried my sore body out of bed at 7 am and got ready to go.
As Sunday progressed I found that I'm was just grouchy and grumpy about everything and couldn't seem to shake it. Since I had such a great day before I felt guilty for my bad mood, which made me feel even worse! The rest of the day was filled with soccer games and a football practice so I wasn't home til 6:30 pm that night. I was starting to feel overwhelmed and stressed.
I hadn't been home at all to get things ready for the upcoming week. I was physically tired from the race. I was mentally needing some down time to unwind from such a high-energy, much anticipated event. I basically just needed a "pause" button!
After giving it some thought, I decided that I was in a bad mood because I was physically and mentally exhausted and was running on empty.
Now that I figured out why I was in a bad mood, I had to figure out how to get out of this vicious cycle as soon as possible. It was about 2 pm on Sunday when I finally realized the cause of my negative mindset, so for the rest of the day I tried hard to shut down any negative thought that came to mind. It was soooooo hard!!
I almost couldn't admit to myself anything positive. Part of me just wanted to wallow in my self-pity...it seemed easier. But I knew I wanted to feel like "me" again so I sucked it up and thought positive thoughts.
I thought about everything I was grateful for in my life. I thought of everything that I would miss if it suddenly disappeared. I thought about all the wonderful people I've had the opportunity to meet. I thought of how fortunate I was to be able to run so many miles. Very slowly (too slowly for my impatient self), I noticed myself releasing the negativity from my mind.
By the end of the day I was feeling so much better. Not quite like my normal self, but better. I decided that I would treat myself to a manicure after work on Monday and that would be something fun to look forward to. It seems so silly, but it did the trick! Even though Monday was a non-stop busy kind of day, I had my manicure to look forward to. I also went to bed when the kids went to bed!! I woke up today feeling 100% refreshed and back to normal!!
I'm so glad I was able to identify why I felt the way I did and decide to kill my bad mood asap. I want to live each day to the fullest and I can't do that living in a bad mood.
Our thoughts are so powerful. We can make them work to our advantage if we really focus in on it. Just as any new skill we try to learn, this will take practice and self-awareness.
If you need any tips or advice on your particular situation I would love to help you develop a plan. I am currently offering FREE 30-minute Life Strategy Sessions where we discuss your current situation, pinpoint your biggest struggle, and come up with a plan to get you to your ideal situation. You can book your session here!
I hope to hear from you soon!
HI, HOT STUFF.
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