A Major Life Lesson I Learned From My Kids

I have learned lots of lessons since becoming a mother. Lessons I don't think I would've learned had I not had children; at least not to the degree that I've learned them.

I have learned lots of lessons since becoming a mother. Lessons I don't think I would've learned had I not had children; at least not to the degree that I've learned them.

Children are interesting creatures. They see the world through completely different eyes than we do. If we really take a moment to pause and see things from their perspective, I think we'd be stunned at how much happier we would be.

The biggest lesson I learned from my sons is that it's okay to start out slow and to even fall down once or twice (or every couple steps!) as you're trying to achieve something new.

As adults we can get caught up in doing things a million miles a minute to increase our productivity and we worry about doing things perfectly. This is a double-edged sword setting us up for failure.

We end up angry, stressed, frustrated, unmotivated and sometimes we just give up. This is exactly the opposite behavior you see in a baby learning how to walk. They stand up, relying on the support of the couch to keep them upright and then they slowly begin to step away from the support.

If they fall down, they immediately pull themselves up to the couch and try again, usually with a smile on their face and a squeal of delight. They are failing time and time again, yet they are enjoying the process and not freaking out that they messed up. All their loved ones are cheering them on and are just so happy they are attempting this new phase in life.

What would happen if you just took things one step at a time, unfazed by the fact it took you 3 or 4 attempts to get one task done? What would happen if you had the courage to find the support you needed to get you started and motivated along the way? There's no shame in asking for help or support.

Would you attempt to learn new things? Would you have the confidence to go for the promotion at work? Would you step out of your comfort zone and attend a conference and network with new people? Would you give up your negative way of thinking and train yourself to develop a positive mindset? Would you have the courage to distance yourself from a negative influence?

Or maybe you would finally believe in yourself and your ability to make your dreams come true. As the saying goes, "Whatever you hold in your mind on a consistent basis is exactly what you will experience in your life." --Anthony Robbins

Get in the habit of stepping out of your comfort zone, dreaming bigger than ever before and making mindset shifts to allow your dreams to unfold before you. Throw away all your self-limiting beliefs and start creating new beliefs. Beliefs such as:

  • "I am the master of my habits."
  • "My dreams are much greater than my fears."
  • "My faith in myself lifts me high above any fear."
  • "As I follow my heart, I discover my destiny."
  • "I move through each and every day with power and purpose."
  • "I gratefully let go of old, limiting behaviors."

When you feel like you've fallen down or you're not ready to let go of your support, just remember that if you give up, you will never get where you want to go. If you were the baby learning to walk, you would fall down and lie there just waiting for others to help you and your growth would stop there. As a baby, you toughed it out and learned the skill of walking and you can do the next big thing (whatever that may be for you).