How to Feel How You Want to Feel

I know my readers and my followers are very much like me so I’m sure you are able to relate to this post about feelings.  You and I have high expectations and big goals to accomplish in this life, right?  

Sometimes we wake up and nothing goes our way.  We feel grumpy, frustrated, impatient and overwhelmed.  These are the days when nothing is going right and we feel like crawling back in bed and trying again tomorrow.  I hope I’m not alone in this!

I have admitted in previous posts that I am a recovering control freak.  I’m a planner and a doer and I just really think things should go a certain way, (not too much to ask).  And obviously since we live in the real world, things don’t always go according to my plan.

This type of mindset has caused me so much unnecessary stress and anxiety over the years.  Trying to control a world in which I knew I ultimately couldn’t control was so scary!!  I wish I could go back in time and talk with my younger self and explain to her what I know now.  

Actually, I wish I could tell everyone I meet what I know now in case they are feeling how I used to feel, (which is one of the biggest reasons I became a Life and Success coach for busy women.)

I would tell my younger self this:

  • Our thoughts create our feelings.
  • We are in control of our thoughts.
  • To feel the way you desire to feel, you need to think thoughts that create that feeling.
  • We are not the feeling we feel; instead, we have that feeling.  
  • Our feelings do not have power over us.
  • If we take control of our minds (and therefore, our thoughts), we take control of our feelings.
  • We can create the life we want by taking charge of our thoughts.
  • We make decisions as to what we do by the feeling we desire to have.  

These concepts may seem a little “out there” for some of you.  I know this because not too long ago I also rolled my eyes and said, “yeah, right.”  

It finally dawned on me that if I didn’t get to the bottom of my anxiety, fear and stress, I would never feel free to go after my desires and fulfill my dreams.  I truly believed that my desires were my road map to the life I was meant to live.  Once the fear of missing out on my destiny became bigger than the fear of digging into my thoughts everything started becoming clear.

I realized that if I began to feel anxious I could focus my mind on happy, calming thoughts and I would instantly feel better.  This was startling to me and created a sense of power inside myself that I had to examine further.  

If I am able to stop the feeling of anxiety from consuming my body and mind simply by thinking different thoughts, what else can I create by using my mind in a better way?

The answer….anything I want!

Me, the control freak, who always felt powerless against the forces of my mind and feelings, finally realized how much power I actually had.  Talk about liberating!  

The world opened up to me and I saw a new horizon that was filled with anything I could desire.  I started stepping outside of my comfort zone and taking risks that I would’ve shied away from before out of fear of feeling scared or anxious.

I realized if I wanted to feel happy, I simply needed to think thoughts that led me to feel happiness.  

If I wanted to feel peaceful, I needed to think of thoughts that brought me peace.  

If I wanted to feel pumped up and motivated, I needed to think of thoughts that brought me energy and drive.

This life-changing “ah-ha” moment has led me to begin my passion-filled coaching business, EMproved Life.  To think that I may have missed out on this amazing time in my life is super scary to me.  

I have such a strong desire to help as many women discover their purpose and live the limitless life they are meant to live.

I'd love to hear from you!  Let me know what you think about this post and reach out to me in the comments below if you’d life to chat further in depth about this.   

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